Back in the day when you wanted to take hot pictures to send your boyfriendyou had two choices: Polaroids that made every nudie look like a crime scene, or taking your photos to be developed. Which, sadly, is how I sent my first nekkid photo. Yep, I took it on my old camera, and then marched my butt down to Target and had them developed.
Modern technology has benefitted many relationships in recent years, in the form of sexting and video calls while you're separated. And if you're looking to give your sex life an added boostyour smartphone can be a handy gadget too. Men are visual creatures so photos work best if you want to get his mojo going.
In many areas, I crave consistency. I like when the subway comes on time and how my hair will be reliably perfect on the third day since my last wash. Sometimes the lighting is dim or the camera lens on my phone is dirty.
Sending nudes used to be such a taboo thing to do—no one talked about it but everyone did it. Set your own boundaries. Want to send him a photo in your bra only?
Taking nude selfies is an act of erotic expression, and sharing them with a trustworthy partner can deepen your intimacy plus make for tantalizing foreplay. Sadly, the joys of this pastime are often eclipsed by anxiety over photos being stolen or shared without consent. As long as everyone involved enthusiastically consents at every step of the way, taking and share nude photos is one of the hottest things you can do.
Sexting is just one of those things that's going to happen, and there's no point denying it or trying to stop people from sending their sexy tests. The best thing we can do is educate people on how to do it safer, and to empower them only to send nudes or erotic pics if they're really comfortable, and actually want to. A Reddit user recently started an AskMen thread asking, "How important are naughty photos for a relationship?
Sexting is, no doubt, an art of the 21st century. And one that if you haven't mastered the do's and don'ts yet, you definitely need to. Because not only is texting dirty messages a way to stand out from other women if you're in the dating game, but it's also an incredible way to "enhance sexual communication and intimacy with your partner," says Jane GreerPhD, a relationship expert and author of What About Me? But if you've ever sent a sext that didn't go over very well—or have felt totally out of left field being seductive and not at all awkward—you may have thrown out the idea with your old flip phone.
If he agrees to be extra nice to you, tell him you just might give him the unedited version. Or just take a picture of your bed, with or without you in it, and tell him that you wish he was there with you. Try turning it into a game.
As a professional photographer, I'm disappointed with the state of the selfiethe "sexy selfie" in particular. With the sheer amount of "leaked" photos on the Internetit's infuriating that we're raising the next generation to believe that terribly composed, naked iPhone photos are sexy. For goodness sake, the nude photo used to be an art form, but lately it seems we seem to have forgotten how truly sexy the human body can be in all its subtlety.